Overcoming Fear: 10 Ways To Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Overcoming Fear: 10 Ways To Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Forbes Coaches Council

You need to give a speech, but crowds terrify you. You know it’s time for a raise, but you don’t know how to work up the nerve to approach your boss. The work you’re doing now no longer satisfies, but finding something new is frightening. What if you don’t succeed?

Fear is a valuable thing. It keeps people safe and encourages caution when caution is due. But it’s also a limiting thing: Not everything you’re afraid of deserves fear or caution. And sometimes, moments of bravery are what are needed to make your life better.

1. Remember: Some Of The Best Things Happen When You’re Uncomfortable

In times of stress or discomfort, remind yourself that some of the best things happen outside a comfort zone. These experiences can both challenge you and help you grow. Commit to giving the situation a try with your best effort, and keep expectations low to alleviate additional pressure. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can happen?” then focus on achieving the opposite result. – Adrienne Tom, Career Impressions

2. Do Small Activities To Challenge Yourself

Best-selling author and podcaster Tim Ferriss shares some unique insights to step out of your comfort zone, which I have adopted as well. Negotiate for a cup of coffee at Starbucks. Lie down in a public place for 10 seconds. Hug a random person. All these activities are geared towards getting you comfortable with doing the commonly unthinkable actions or comfortable trying (like negotiation). – Gia Ganesh, Gia Ganesh Coaching

3. Turn It Into A Learning Experience

Take the focus off the discomfort of stepping out of your comfort zone by asking, “What am I learning about me? What am I learning about the other people in this situation? How can I use the information from the previous two questions in my professional and personal lives?” – Frances McIntosh, Intentional Coaching LLC

4. Coach Yourself

In the spirit of a coach, ask yourself some questions: “What is the worst that could happen? Could I survive it? What is the best that could happen? Would I or others benefit from it? Are there downsides to remaining where I am? What is holding me back?” This simple technique elevates thinking. Here is a variation: What questions would you ask if you were coaching someone out of their comfort zone? – Patrick Jinks, The Jinks Perspective

5. Picture Yourself Filling With Light And Confidence

Take three deep breaths. Think of something that brings you great joy. Picture your whole body filling up with a bright glow, like a light bulb, as you think of your great joy. Repeat an empowering phrase to yourself: “I’m safe,” “I’m cool wherever I go” or “I can do this.” This reduces your body’s stress response and gives you the confidence to step out of your comfort zone. You got this! – Nancy Marmolejo, TalentAndGenius.com

6. Perform Research To Get A Handle On Fears

The mental trick I use is to do the research on what it is you want to do. If you want to skydive, research the topic and the best skydive schools around. Also, get out and watch and talk to others who are doing what you aspire to accomplish. Research breeds knowledge, and knowledge breeds confidence. – Linda Zander, Super Sized Success

7. Become Familiar With Discomfort

Living outside of one’s comfort zone is by definition uncomfortable. Therefore, the best habit you can foster within yourself is the practice of becoming familiar with discomfort. A great way to do this is to pick one thing each day that scares you and go and do it. You are scared and you act. Repeat daily for a year. You will be amazed at how what once scared you is now commonplace. – Susanne Biro, Susanne Biro & Associates Coaching Inc.

8. Clearly Visualize Success

Often when people are asked to step out of their comfort zone, they think of all the things that could go wrong. Instead, close your eyes and clearly visualize what a successful outcome looks like. Where are you? Who is with you? What are you doing? What does success feel like? Create that powerful image each time you feel fear stepping out of your safe zone. – Lianne Lyne, PLP Coaching, LLC

9. Embrace A Role

Celebrities use alter egos to experiment with facets of their personalities and to step outside their comfort zones. But anyone can use the technique. Want to be more comfortable walking into a roomful of people? Imagine an alter ego who is confident in that situation. Put on that alter ego and really inhabit it. Over time, you’ll get more comfortable. Eventually, you won’t need the alter ego. – Shauna C. Bryce, Bryce Legal Career Counsel

10. Don’t Go At It Alone

We tend to think that we are alone in our fear of the unknown. When trying something new, enlist a trusted friend, colleague or mentor with whom you can share your concerns. Ask them how they got through their fear of stepping outside of their comfort zone. Not only will this collaboration give you a shoulder to lean on, but you will also learn new tricks of the trade on how to take the risk. – Loren Margolis, Training & Leadership Success LLC

6 Practical Tips For Getting Shit Done

6 Practical Tips For Getting Shit Done

Stephanie Huston

You have a full time job, brilliant ideas to share with the world, a side hustle business to launch, sleep to catch up on, exercise to hustle through, and about 100 other #adulting things to take care of. 24 hours in a day seems like we would have plenty of time to get all of our shit done – doesn’t Beyonce have those same 1,440 minutes? But time seems to escape us, the weeks add up, and we’re not sure if we’ve made any progress at all. So how do you get all of this done, without losing it!?

1. SPARK THE FIRE
Attitude is everything, and being passionate about what you’re doing goes a long way during difficult hustle days. Maybe you love your full time job, but have to work a side job to pay the bills; or perhaps you’re no longer passionate about your career, and struggle to find time to focus on a side hustle you’re pumped about. If you’re not doing what you love right now, seek out the small things that bring you joy and start a daily gratitude practice to keep a positive mindset and track what sparks your internal flame.

2. SET INTENTIONS
To create and maintain daily motivation to get shit done – write your goals down! Even if they are big, lofty dreams – it helps to see them on paper and break them out into small steps that you should be taking in that right direction. Whether it’s project based goals, annual achievements, or a lifelong vision – knowing what you are hustling for will fuel your drive and ensure your time is well spent.

3. BREAK IT DOWN
People often never even start to chip away at their goals because it seems like such a big task to tackle. Once you have stated your intentions, take each of your goals and break them out into a series of smaller goals that you can accomplish each month throughout the year. Then, take it further and break it down into what you can handle a week at a time. This way you know what you have to do, so you can schedule the appropriate chunks of time to do it and get that shit done.

4. SCHEDULE PRIORITIES
Ask yourself – ‘What will I do this week to create my legacy?’. Staying organized and keeping an ongoing task list helps you see what’s coming up, where you need to schedule work or playtime in, evaluate your priorities, and tackle your to do list as efficiently as possible. Writing down ideas, notes, and future tasks can help clear the clutter from your brain so you’re able to focus on the task in the moment. Knowing what you have on your plate allows you to evaluate what you’re spending your time on and how you should spend it.

5. CHUNK
Set aside chunks of time to power through and focus on only the priorities you set for the day so you can work as quickly and efficiently as possible. You could even try an interactive journal; Pierre Khawand, work and productivity expert, has a new book called The Perfect 15-Minute Day: Managing Your Time, Thoughts, and Emotions, which helps you stay aware of what you’re working on and stay focused by working in highly productive bursts of short 15-minute increments. Knowing that you’ve set aside specific time for tasks will keep you on track and focused in the moment.

6. TAKE A BREAK
The hustle is real, but giving yourself time to rest and reflect will ensure you are efficient and healthy in the long run. If you’re constantly trying to run at full speed, you can get tired and anxious and that will only hinder the time it takes to achieve your goals. Scheduling in chunks of free playtime and using your vacation days allow you to stay refreshed and creative!

Every single day counts leading up to your big dreams, and even though you can’t get it all done right now, every task will add up to something grand. By writing down your intentions, breaking down and scheduling priorities, and chunking out time to focus, you can make sure the work you’re doing is leading you in the right direction with every project you take on and every person you meet.

Break The Chains

DREAM EVIL

Break The Chains Lyrics

Locked up he’s been, into his cell
They said he has to overcome his fears
Living in darkness now for so long
Sinking in sorrow and tears

Why don’t you break the chains
Break the chains
Released from the pain
It’s time to break the chains
Break the chains
And live free again

Now he arises back from the dead
To bring them fire, fury and pain
Trusting in steel for his revenge
That’s the only way

Why don’t you break the chains
Break the chains
Released from the pain
It’s time to break the chains
Break the chains
And live free again

Casting the chains
Rise up in flames
Choosing your fate
Now’s the time to kill the pain

Why don’t you break the chains
Break the chains
Released from the pain
It’s time to break the chains
Break the chains
And live free again
Break the chains
Why don’t you break the chains
Break the chains
Released from the pain
Break the chains
It’s time to break the chains
Break the chains

The Five Most Important Reasons to Laugh

The Five Most Important Reasons to Laugh

Patrick Allmond

Life is not always funny. But if you are looking for some great physical and emotional reasons to laugh then you are going to LOVE our list. Check it out

Laughter Makes Us Healthier

Laughter is a good thing. Scientists tell us that laughter, humor and joy are an important part of life. Laughing lowers blood pressure, reduces stress hormones, and increases muscle flexion. It increases the circulation of antibodies in the blood stream and makes us more resistant to infection.

Laughter Touches Our Soul

Laughter is good for us physically, but that is just the beginning. Laughter is good for the soul. There is a holiness in laughter. Laughter brings us closer to each other – and there is something holy about people coming together. Laughter provides us a moment of grace. It occurs spontaneously and unexpectedly. It catches us by surprise and we respond with laughter. We never expect to laugh, just as we never expect grace or good fortune when it arrives. And in that grace, we are able to recognize the folly of our own pursuits.

Laughter Keeps Things in Perspective

Laughter helps us to transcend ourselves, and I need that help. Too often I take myself far too seriously. There is a danger of taking ourselves, our beliefs and our life too seriously. Fanatics, it seems to me, see nothing as funny. Here’s a suggestion. The next time you’re in the middle of an argument, start laughing – not in a derogatory tone, but in the jovial sense of being in on a good joke. Then see if the anger begins to melt away and if you can find a more creative way to handle things. I’ve done this with my kids and it actually works. And you know what else? Now I know that when I think about doing it and don’t, that I have lost my perspective.

Laughter Helps Us Stay Positive

Laughter can be an important tool for keeping our troubles in proportion, for realizing that things aren’t always as bad as we think they are. But even when things are as bad as we think they are, laughter helps create positive emotions and helps us find a frame of mind in which we can more easily cope with the struggles of life. Laughter eases tension and sharpens our ability to concentrate. Laughter is a lot like changing a baby’s diaper. It doesn’t permanently solve any problems, but it makes things a lot more acceptable for a while.

Laughter Is Loving

If I am able to laugh with you in my mistakes as well as with you in yours, it suggests we are all flawed and imperfect. Embracing good natured humor, we find the humility to see the foolishness of trying to be perfect and the gift of enjoying the smiles and laughter of love.

Children laugh on average 200 times a day and adults only 26 times a day. How many times a day do you experience the rich joy of laughter? If we want to be happier, healthier, and more productive we seriously need to make time to laugh. Because when we laugh, when we really laugh, deep from the belly… we feel alive! Start looking for more reasons to laugh today.

Artwork: What is the beauty of art?

Artwork: What is the beauty of art?

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Narayanan Krishnaswamy

The expression or application of human creative skill and imagination, typically in a visual form such as painting or sculpture, producing works to be appreciated primarily for their beauty or emotional power or this creative activity resulting in the production of paintings, drawings, sculpture, music, literature and dance is called art. Any art form requires a skill at doing a specified thing which, one acquires through practice. Normally any art has form and content.

The process of creation of art has more to do with the beauty and the resultant feeling to the producer/creator and the audience/receiver. The creator to produce or deliver art would have had the required thought process which comes to him naturally in a flick or a result of a process of infinite dwelling to give that artistical solution to a particular problem or a perceived problem. This process when executed with absolute passion, which is either inborn and natural or thoroughly cultivated over years results in absolute ecstasy to the creator and in almost all the cases inspire, transcend, moderate and enthuse the audience, viewer or reader.

Beauty, in absolute terms is the perception of the recipient. However, any orderliness, symmetry, systemic repetition, roundness, appropriate colours, rhythms, organisation, modularity or cleanliness gives the feeling of beauty. Beauty is the feeling which comes from within the onlooker upon seeing a work of art.

The beauty of any art is the result of both the artist/artiste and the recipient who is involved in the process of art or artefact. While the artists strive in delivering her/his promise of creating beautiful works, the audience need to have an appropriate mindset to receive the desired feeling of beauty or even beyond. Any creation of art, factors in the concepts of the elements or components of beauty in an appealing way to the senses. The feeling or feelings which is the resultant experience of the art or the artiste overwhelms and inspires the audience. It makes one to come back for the same experience. It is this beauty which is stored, collected, curated and preserved. Any art is also the achievement of the humanity as a whole and this representative nature of human excellence, adds further impact on experiencing this beauty.

In fact, art is the condensed form of beauty and to create beautiful feelings upon the recipient repeatedly forever.

Hustle more, hate less

Hustle more, hate less

Raphael Husbands

Hustle. What does that word mean to you? You see it all over the internet in motivational quotes. It’s on hats and t-shirts. It’s in practically every rap song on the radio.

Hustle: busy movement or activity.

Everybody likes to say that they hustle. They’re hashtagging it. Creating memes and graphics. People are all over social media talking about how much they “hustle”. Everybody’s a hustler, no-one’s sleeping at all.

Then you take a good look. If you see them at work they do the bare minimum. They do just enough work to not get fired. Forget hustle, some people don’t even work while at work.

Forget hustle, some people don’t even work while at work. Don’t let that be you. #Hustle #Work…

Then of course, the weekend comes…

And they’re in the club or they’re at the movies. They’re at restaurants. Or at a cookout, all day long.

Some people don’t even go out and party. They just stay at home and watch TV all weekend.

Where’s all the hustle that people brag about on social media?

It’s mostly fiction. It just makes people feel good to claim that they’re constantly hustling. Then there’s the flip side…

The hate.

People are all over the internet leaving negative comments about others who are actually making things happen.

Instead of producing, they’re hating on those that are producing.

If you have money problems then here’s what you need to do:

Hustle more, hate less.

Hustle more, hate less. #Hustle #HustleMore #Discipline #

WorkMoremoney

If you have money problems then you shouldn’t be hanging out all weekend. You shouldn’t be spending your “free time” just celebrating.

What are you celebrating anyway?

If you can’t pay your bills or you’re stressed over money then there’s nothing to celebrate.

Partying will only make you forget your problems temporarily. And if you have money problems then you definitely can’t chill all weekend.

Here’s what you need to do:

Hustle more….

Start by hustling more at work. Your job is the place to start increasing your hustle.

This is 1 of the simplest ways to make more money. Get your employer to pay you more money for the hours that you’re already there working anyway.

Make yourself more valuable to your employer. That’s the only way to get paid more, provide more value. You’re already there working, improve your work.

How?

First, start by working all the time you work. Actually work when you’re at work.

You get paid to work during certain business hours. Don’t spend time gossiping and handling personal business.

Get things done and get them done fast.

If you want a raise then provide more value. Then you can “raise your prices”.

You also need to start hustling more on the weekend. This is your life and it’s up to you to fix it.

That means that you have to put in major work outside of your job.

Stop thinking that you’re supposed to relax all weekend.

Your money problems don’t stop on the weekend. Your life doesn’t stop on the weekend.

You shouldn’t stop on the weekend either.

Your money problems don’t stop on the weekend. Your life doesn’t stop on the weekend. You shouldn’t…

Start looking for ways to increase your income in your spare time.

This might mean getting a second job temporarily. This might mean starting a part-time business.

Use your spare time to get things moving in the right direction. Quickly.

When you start hustling more, it’s just as important to….

Hate less

If you’re hating on people that make more money, how are you going to make more money?

If you act like there’s something wrong with someone else making more money then you’re never going to make more money.

If you say that making big money is wrong then your subconscious won’t let you do what’s “wrong” and you’ll self-sabotage.

So stop hating.

Besides, it takes time and energy to hate.

You need lots of energy to get big things done. Don’t waste it by hating on what other people are actually producing.

You need time to get things done. Do you really want to waste it by trolling internet comments sections? You could be using that time to produce instead of hating on others.

So, when you see others doing big things be inspired. Tell yourself if they can do it, so can I.

Remember the old saying: Don’t hate, congratulate.

Remember the old saying: Don’t hate, congratulate. #HustleMore #HateLess #WorkMoneyLife

Even if you don’t have anything good to say, just don’t say anything. Move on to something else and be productive.

Don’t waste your time. It’s what your life is made of.

Don’t waste your time. It’s what your life is made of. #WorkMoneyLife

So remember: Hustle More, Hate Less.

DON’T LET YOUR “HATERS” BE YOUR MOTIVATORS (DO THIS INSTEAD)

DON’T LET YOUR “HATERS” BE YOUR MOTIVATORS (DO THIS INSTEAD)

Rosetta

Let’s talk about “haters” today.

I put that word in quotation marks because this term has become very popular in recent years. But the truth is, you don’t have “haters.” What you DO have are people who don’t like you and people who don’t support your success.

So, when people say “I let my haters be my motivators” what they’re really saying is, “I care a lot about what the people who don’t like me think about me.”

Sure, it sounds kind of catchy, in a “you go girl!” sort of way, but when you think about it…

If you have to depend on your haters for motivation, it means that you care about their opinions way too much.

It means you have to be paying attention to what other people are saying about you. It means you have to spend time evaluating how people perceive you and how you live your life.

You should be motivated by your OWN ambitions, not by the fact that someone doesn’t like you or how you live your life.

This is the opposite of being empowered.

When you’re empowered, you don’t need everyone to like you. You don’t need everyone to validate you. And you certainly don’t need everyone’s approval.

Ask yourself: who do you want to give your time and attention to?

The people who DON’T like you or the people who DO?

The good news is that for every one person who doesn’t like you or the things you say or the things you do, there are a dozen people who adore you and absolutely want to see you succeed in life.

So instead of using your haters as your motivators…

Be motivated by the people who support you. Be inspired by the people who are in your corner. Be led by the people who are rooting for you.

Concentrate on the people who love you. And rather than wasting time worrying about haters, redirect your energy to loving them back.

Instead of proving the naysayers wrong, focus on proving your supporters RIGHT